Divorce un-builds and unties what took years to nourish, and sadly, frequently the only individuals who benefit from it are greedy attorneys who will utilize every trick in the book to strip the other assets, till no remnant of the person’s investment - physical, monetary and emotional - persists. Much as it sounds awfully outmoded, marriage is a commitment, and people have to make every attempt not to cheapen that commitment in any way. Remaining married is a lifelong effort. It requires guts. It requires nerves of steel to make a marriage work. A sense of humor and a lower degree of ego may sustain us in that work.